It is with immense excitement that we announce Heirloom is looking to expand our team of dedicated, wedding-obsessed crazies. Just kidding…we’re really quite normal folk; we simply possess an intense passion for the wedding and event industry that consumes our every thought.
You too?!Well then, this just might be your dream gig.
Heirloom is looking to hire one super cool marketing + communications intern who’s looking to eventually enter the wedding industry as a career. This unpaid internship has the opportunity for a paid position upon completion and set to start the end of October. Exact dates are flexible.
While this is predominately a PR position, interns will gain intense exposure to running a small business, publication creation and editorial/ photo shoot management. Yeehaw! Sounds like fun, don’t it?!
“Her spending priorities are not the same as mine.”
” I tend to overspend at Christmas, while my husband wants more money allowed for vacations.”
“Sometimes, he spends a lot of money on stupid stuff…”
As the holiday season beckons to us from the not so distant future, and we start looking into our wallets in anticipation of holiday purchases, the elephant in the room becomes bigger and more obnoxious … like it or not, finances is the root of many of the most severe disagreements in relationships.
It’s not just the lack of money that causes stress; what and how we choose to spend money on when we do have it can be sore point as well! And when the financial going gets rough, couples can easily become trapped in a vicious circle in which stress leads to rudeness and blame, and rudeness and blame leads to stress.
The best antidote for this vicious circle is to administer a good dose of etiquette. Why? Because etiquette encourages us to communicate in a way that resolves situations and builds relationships, instead of tearing them down.
And once you have a clear path of communication and etiquette, these six steps can help guide your conversation about the elephant in the room:
1. Sit down and talk about financial goals and values
Yes, it can be hard to start that chat, but it’s so important and will really help establish some ground rules, hence making your relationship so much better! Many couples often forget to do this … I know I know, it’s an uncomfortable subject, and sometimes it’s easier not to talk about it. I felt exactly the same way! But once Ian and I started that conversation, I could see that he wants to be on the same side as me, and that made me feel so much better about me, and us and our financial situation.
2. Remember your “pleases” and “thank-yous”
Often, financial issues are tied up in all kinds of emotional issues. You could feel like you don’t want to be criticised for how you keep track of your finances .. or you might have carried a childhood burden of not having enough money when growing up.
No matter your past, try not to bring them into the conversation room with your partner. Don’t use blame, accusations or language that is simply not nice. Chat about your money situation in a matter-of-fact way, using only statistics.
Also, try your best not to feel defensive when your partner talks about your goals or habits. Remember … you’re both rowing your canoe in this great lake of life, and you’re both in the same canoe! (:
3. Establish an A-plus plan
You’ve sailed through #1 and #2 and are ready to set up a plan? Yay! Remember … this plan needs to take into account the following:
Your joint income
How much you can put towards debt and/or savings each month
What you can cut back on in order to meet your savings goals
Length of time to meet your goals
Once you have those elements down on paper, create a spending plan for each month. Remember that this plan isn’t set in stone; you can adjust it to meet your monthly goal. You might discover, two months down the road, that you may need to cut back on some things, or earn extra income, or both.
In all of those situations, clear communication is key to success! (:
4. Be realistic!
At all times, be very clear and realistic about what you can and will sacrifice in order to give this plan the best A-plus effort that you can give it! You always want to set yourselves up for success, not for failure!
Understanding what you and your partner’s strengths and weaknesses are can go a long LONG way in ensuring your plan gets an “A” grade. If you’re good on the computer, you might want to take charge of your financial program, whilst your partner might be the person to go to the bank, for example.
5. Meet weekly
This is so very important, and is also a crucial step to success which many couples tend to overlook. Just because you have common financial goals and a plan AND a system doesn’t necessarily mean that everything is peachy fine.
Have weekly meetings when you sit down together, perhaps over a nice warm cup of tea, and talk about your finances. You can review your accounts, what’s coming up in the next few weeks you’ll need to budget for, and you can also spot check for any problem areas that might have popped up.
Take this time to spend together, and make sure you’re both still in the same canoe.
6. Keep positive and honesty the focus, always!
I can’t stress this enough … you’re in the same canoe! If one of you starts jumping up and down and flailing your arms about, you’re BOTH going to capsize. Team Happy is a team that will encourage and help each other out. If you stay happy and positive, so will your financial plan and goals!
Are you on the hunt for the fabulously fresh Vancouver bridal jewelry, accessories or bridesmaids gifts?
It’s time you meet Laurie Simpkins, a born and raised Vancouverite and longtime Yaletown resident. Before turning to designing jewellery, Laurie studied Fine Arts and later, Art History at UBC where she obtained her B.A. with a focus on eighteenth and nineteenth-century French art. Talk about the inspired creative type!
Smitten Designs is her pride and joy! Laurie designs sleek and modern pieces, mixing Swarovski crystals, semi-precious stones or freshwater pearls with fine chains to create a unique, sophisticated look that’s chic and fashion-forward, yet also timelessly classic.
And where does “Smitten” come from? The inner love affair we women have with accessories, of course — be it with shoes, handbags or most importantly, jewelery. It beckons to us, not just as a means to express our own personal style, but because it makes us feel uniquely feminine and beautiful.
Laurie is proud to have just launched her NEW and improved website, along with her Fall 2012 collection. Take a peek today and be sure to tell her which piece has stolen your heart. Us business folk LOVE feedback. It delights our passionate souls!
Suzanne+Jordon threw a gorgeously whimsical wedding with vintage elements in Tennessee, birthplace of the blues!
In the bride’s words:
“We knew we wanted to capture the romance and whimsical feeling of our setting. The Lily Barn was perfect and is actually a lily farm with a 120 year old cantilever barn, a pavilion and a gazebo. Jordon and I went for a vintage shabby chic look with cameos and nature-inspired elements. I wanted the colours to be muted and subtle for the flowers, but my favourite colour is peacock blue, so that was in too for bridesmaids and other elements.
Jordon and I were hands-on for the whole event. I never realised what a task it was to plan everything ourselves. We’re both creative engineers, so we made our own invitations, programs and I Spy game cards. Other resources included Etsy for ideas and vintage table numbers (to name just a few), and Pinterest for pulling all the ideas together. My mom came up the week before and was really helpful with putting together elements like the program fans and some last minute sewing; it was really nice that we had that time together before the wedding. On the day of, we couldn’t have done it without our coordinator. We just hired her for the day but without her, we would have been doing all of the setup ourselves instead of enjoying the time getting ready for our special day, so that was money well spent!”
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