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Tue. March 19, 2013

Tuesday Teatime | The Importance of Having a Professional Wedding Videographer

There’s no doubt that hiring a professional wedding videographer will take up large chunk of your wedding budget, but from personal experience, it is truly worth every penny. Most couples who don’t hire a videographer say they wish they had, and so far we’ve never come across a couple who said they wish they hadn’t.

Image Courtesy of Outstanding Occasions

After months, sometimes even years of planning, your wedding day is over in a matter of hours. The curls will fall out of your hair, your dress will go to the cleaners and then be put away in your closet, maybe to be worn again someday by some lucky lady. All your precious, time-consuming DIY projects will be thrown out or stashed away in boxes. Your flowers will wilt and die, your cake will be eaten, and what you are left with at the end of the day is simply a memory, and well, of course, a new husband or wife to share the rest of your life with.

You’ll have bits and pieces of memories of that day that stand out in your mind, and you’ll have photographs of still images that will bring those memories to life. But there truly is no substitute to sitting back and watching how that incredible day unfold.

Last night our full length wedding video arrived. As we watched it, we sat there in awe of how amazing it was to have so many incredible moments captured on film. It was a tear-filled few hours, to say the least, and left us so grateful to have so many wonderful people in our lives. It is such a surreal experience to see your wedding day as a guest. On the day, you’re so in the moment that you are unable to take in all the details and sensations but they come back so quickly when you see it on film. For us, seeing our wedding video made all the stress of planning our wedding, every tear, every hour of searching for lace, every argument, every coat of paint, every squirt of glue, and every last penny completely worth it.

We had family and friends from Iceland, groomsmen from England and Australia, guests from Germany, Mexico and across Canada all there to celebrate with us, and we realised that our wedding day would be the only time in our lives that we will have all those people together in the same place at the same time. For us, wedding videography was the very first item on our to-do list.

To see how you looked at each other for the first time, to watch how great your wedding kiss really was, to see your beautiful bridal party walk down the aisle with such grace before you and to watch your little ring bearer run into the crowd. To see how not-so-professional your choreographed dance actually was, but still loving seeing how much fun the two of you were having, to hear the laughter and heartfelt words spoken by you and your family and friends, to see the tears and hear the pauses – that is what makes having a professional wedding videographer so incredible.

Your dad wrote countless drafts of his speech, perfecting every little detail after years of thinking about what he would say on the day he would give his little girl away. Your maid of honour googled every bridesmaid speech ever written before finishing her final draft, and your best man wrote down every memory he could use to embarrass you a little while still keeping it heartfelt. And you, well you stayed up till the wee hours of the morning the night before your big day to perfect those wedding vows that deserve to be preserved – all these moments are so special and cannot be relived without being captured on film.

Your wedding just might be the last time you dance with your grandfather. That little nephew of yours is going to grow up extremely fast, and you just might need to hear those wedding vows every once in a while to remind you why you fell in love with each other and maybe to show your own children and grandchildren one day before their wedding.

So think twice before you say you can’t afford a videographer, or you just don’t think it’s worth it. Because you can always cut back on other parts of your day that will later seem trivial. Your wedding is your own personal piece of artwork – designed and created by you, to celebrate your love for each other, with the people you love.

Here are two perfect examples of how incredible a wedding video can be… Courtesy of Hello Tomorrow Wedding Films:

Is professional wedding videography going to be a priority for you? Is it an added extra? Or is it simply not part of your wedding plans and budget? We’d love to hear what you think.

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Mon. March 18, 2013

Marriage Manners Monday | Sharing Household Chores from a Husband’s Point of View

How do you get your partner to help out around the house and start sharing household chores? This is a question most women find out the hard way: in an argument.

Without constantly nagging your partner and having it be a source of conflict, cleaning is something most women have a hard time getting their man to do. Household tasks can be a huge source of conflict for many couples, so getting into a routine that works for both of you, right from the start, will make all the difference in the world. Dividing up housework often comes down to clear communication, like most other elements of your relationship.

It’s very rare to find a man who finds household chores equally important as his wife does because most men, whether it’s consciously or unconsciously, look upon housework as women’s work. He, of course, appreciates a clean house and meal on the table but he usually won’t make the effort to create it without being asked.

Setting standards is so important, simple ones like “In our house, we all help clear the table,” or “Hang your coat up in the closet when you come through the door,” can be so helpful later on. Set the standards right from when you start spending most of your time at each other’s places when you’re dating, and later it won’t be difficult to share the chores.

According to my husband, the laundry is the wife’s job, the household ‘fix-it’ tasks are the husband’s job, and the rest should be divided up equally, not that that actually happens…. but at least he thinks that’s how it should be.

Here are some ways to get him to help out without turning it into a source of conflict:

1) Ask, in a respectful and loving way, for what you want and present the issue as a problem for which you need help. Don’t criticise him right away and say things like, “You’re lazy,” or “You never do anything around the house.” That won’t get you very far since it’s going to make him feel angry or ashamed, both of which will not work in your favour.

2) As childish as it sounds, make a list of the chores that need to be done every day, week and month. Divide up the responsibility first by each choosing the chores you each don’t mind doing. Maybe you don’t mind doing the laundry and cleaning the kitchen and he doesn’t mind doing the garage and taking out the garbage. Once you get those tasks out of the way, divide up the tough ones. Write them down on a whiteboard if you need to, or make a chart – it’ll be worth the amount of arguing you won’t do as a result.

3) Don’t call a special meeting – try talking about household chores while you’re out for a walk or having dinner. Otherwise, he will immediately get defensive and start an argument. Make sure you make it personal when you have a conversation about chores. Something like, “Sweetie, it is really important to me to have the kitchen clean before we go to sleep. It would be very helpful if you could clean up the dishes on the nights that I cook. Would you be up for that?” That would be an ideal way to ask without making it sound like a criticism.

4) Don’t belittle or criticise your man for his failings. Do compliment and praise him on the things he does do and build on the great things that he does. The more you nag him, the less likely he is going to be to want to help around the house. Which means the more you’re going to feel like you’re the only one doing any chores, which will make you angry and cause an argument that puts you right back where you started.

By doing the test on the five love languages, I found out that one of my top love language is “Acts of Service.”

This means that, for me, actions speak much louder than words. I feel like my husband loves and respects me when he does help around the house without me having to ask him. This shows to me that he understands when I need help around the house. This is so much more important to me than receiving gifts or hearing words of affirmation.

Image Courtesy of Ann Kuperberg

It’s helpful for you to understand what your top love language is, so that you can discuss the division of chores with your husband in a constructive manner. Leaning to share household tasks right from the beginning of your relationship, rather than trying to start after you’re married is so important. Try the test for yourself and maybe it will help both of you understand why certain things are more important to you than others in your relationship.

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Fri. March 15, 2013

Friday’s Find | Classy Goods for Classy Gents : Belvedere Gents

The gentlemen of Vancouver have long been looking for a line of men’s apparel to help them look snappy. Finally, this is where Belvedere Gents has stepped in. This classic collection of men’s accessories is inspired by the gentlemen of the 1950′s as well as today’s modern chap, will have your groom and groomsmen looking fine in no time!

Owner Kari Bergrud’s handmade designs include ties, tie your own bow ties, suspenders, pocket combs, and tie clips made from vintage spoons & forks which bound to infuse any significant male in your life with a touch of dapperness akin to classic gentlemen of years gone by – perfect for a vintage wedding.

Images courtesy of The Barefoot Contessa

The bow ties come in so many colours, patterns and florals, you’re sure to find one to match your ladies dresses or the colour scheme of your big day. Gentlemen, not to worry if you don’t know how to tie a bow tie, it’s a rare trait these days. You receive a handy instruction sheet with every purchase.

The ‘things that are manly’ pins are also super cute, with words like, elk, pulled pork, craft beer and pocket knives. Find Belvedere products at this season’s craft markets around the city and at Barefoot Contessa on Main or Commercial.

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Thu. March 14, 2013

Thursday Theme | Irish Theme Wedding

1. Etsy 2. Love My Dress 3. Good Reads 4. Larissa Cleveland 5. Delish 6. Larissa Cleveland 7. United With Love

In the spirit of St. Patricks Day we’re bringing you some Irish theme wedding inspiration from the real emerald city. How fun would an Irish themed wedding be?

When we say Irish wedding, we don’t mean leprechauns, green beer, pots of gold and pinching. We think, Guinness infused cocktails, antique horseshoes for good luck, rolling green hills, Claddagh rings and traditional hand tying ceremonies.

How about having a pub-style reception with hearty foods like mini shepherd’s pies and fish ‘n chips wrapped in newspaper served?

Xoxo Alicia-Rae and Tammy

Wed. March 13, 2013

A Bird Themed DIY Wedding | The Teahouse at Stanley Park | Vivien+Alan

With her love for bird watching, it felt only right to include little feathery friends into the theme of their wedding. And so that’s what Vivien+Alan did. A total DIY bride through and through, all of these details were made by Vivien herself. We featured this wedding in our Winter/Spring 2013 issue, and are pleased to present it today with more juicy imagery and details!